As a working professional, you are inevitably going to face challenging conversations in the workplace. Sometimes, these conversations can be with your peers or bosses, and other times they may be with subordinates. Whatever the case may be, it’s essential to know how to handle these conversations in a way that is professional, effective and respectful to all parties. Here are some dos and don’ts to follow when it comes to managing challenging conversations in the workplace.

Do: Prepare yourself before the conversation 📝👀

It’s essential to prepare yourself ahead of time before diving into a challenging conversation. Think about what you want to say, what the issue is, and how you’re going to approach it. It’s also important to understand the perspective of the other person and how they may react or respond to what you have to say. Be sure to review all relevant materials or documents concerning the issue beforehand, and have any necessary data, statistics or evidence ready to support your claims.

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Don’t: Jump into the conversation without thinking 🙅‍♂️🙅‍♀️

Going into a conversation without any preparation, or worse, without any forethought can turn things worse. Avoid going straight to the problem without first setting the proper tone or establishing the stage. It is important to avoid making accusations and assumptions since the conversation could escalate quickly into an argument.

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Do: Be respectful and mindful of your tone and language 🗣️💬

It is important to be courteous and respectful during any conversation. Stay calm, and avoid profanity or disrespectful language or gestures. Use reasoning and logic to explain your point of view, express your thoughts and create an open, constructive dialogue. Always be aware that the way the message is delivered is as important as the message itself.

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Don’t: Be dismissive or assume that you’re always right 😒🤨

Suppose you are trying to convey information to someone with whom you are at a disagreement. In that case, being dismissive or outright rejecting their point of view can escalate conflict and create an atmosphere of hostility. Instead, show empathy and try to find common ground to reach a resolution that works for both parties.

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Do: Listen and acknowledge the other person’s perspective 👂🤝

Effective communication is a two-way street. One of the most important things to do during a difficult conversation is to listen actively and acknowledge the other person’s point of view. Make eye contact, and be attentive, and ask questions that show your willingness to understand the other person’s perspective. Active listening can build trust and promote a collaborative effort to resolve any disputes.

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Don’t: Interrupt or talk over the other person 🤐🙉

Interrupting or talking over someone can come across as disrespectful or dismissive of the person’s feelings or opinions. It’s crucial to allow each person to express their ideas and thoughts without interruption. These heated conversations can become emotionally charged and hectic, so it is indispensable to only speak when it’s your turn so that both parties can address and solve the main issue.

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Managing difficult conversations in the workplace requires much precision, empathy, understanding and the ability to remain calm under pressure. Remember that it is not possible to please everyone every time, but by following these dos and don’ts, the odds of finding common ground and resolving issues increase significantly.

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