Hey there, singles! If you’re reading this, chances are you’re on a dating app trying to find your perfect match. Messaging is a crucial step in the online dating process, and it’s important to make a great first impression to increase your chance of success. In this blog post, I’ll be sharing the dos and don’ts of messaging on dating apps, so you can make sure you’re starting things off on the right foot. Let’s get started! 💕

Do: Personalize your message

Sending generic messages like “Hey” or “How are you?” will likely yield little to no response. Instead, take the time to personalize your messages by reading the person’s profile and finding something you have in common or something that interests you. Not only does this show that you’re interested in getting to know them, but it also makes your message stand out from the hundreds of other messages they receive.

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Don’t: Be overly sexual

Unless the person’s profile specifically mentions something sexual, avoid any sexual or crude comments in your first message. It’s important to remember that you don’t know the person well enough yet to make those types of jokes or comments. It can come across as inappropriate or creepy, and will likely scare them off.

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Do: Use correct grammar and spelling

Using proper grammar and spelling goes a long way in making a good impression. It shows that you’re thoughtful, intelligent, and put effort into your message. Double-checking your message before sending it can also prevent embarrassing typos or autocorrect mistakes.

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Don’t: Use excessive emojis or text slang

Although a few well-placed emojis can add to the tone of your message, using too many can come across as immature or unprofessional. Additionally, avoid using excessive text slang or abbreviations that the other person may not understand. This can make it difficult to understand your message and can be a turn off.

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Do: Ask open-ended questions

Asking open-ended questions can spark a conversation and show that you’re interested in getting to know the person better. Try asking about their hobbies, interests, or something related to their profile. This not only helps you learn more about them but also keeps the conversation flowing.

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Don’t: Be too pushy

While it’s important to express your interest, being too pushy can come across as desperate or needy. Avoid sending multiple messages without a response or pressuring them to meet up too quickly. It’s important to give them space and time to respond at their own pace.

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Remember, the goal of the first message is to make a good impression and start a conversation. By personalizing your message, using proper grammar and spelling, and asking open-ended questions, you can increase your chances of success. Avoid being too sexual, using excessive emojis or text slang, and being too pushy, as this can turn the other person off. Good luck on your dating journey, and happy swiping! ❤️

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